Valuable or indispensible

Ladies, wives, girlfriends, partners out there,
Would you rather be valuable to your husband or partner , or totally indispensable?
Meaning that as a wife you take care of your husband, your home, your family in your own special way. You can cook his favorite food, treat and love him in your own way, know how to make him smile or laugh, keep him happy but at the same time have your own life, your own interests. So you be there for him when you have to, but you have also other obligations, that when you leave him for an hour or two, a day or a few days, you know, maybe for your own parents, shopping, out with the ladies, outstation for work..he can make his own coffee, wash his own clothes, eat at the mamak..you get it..survive on his own, coz we're not in the jungle anymore, every necessity is within reach.He misses you but doesnt mope around and sit and wait for you to come home.But he values you when you're around you'll spoil him by doing things to make it easier on him, so he can do other work, and keep him happy cause we love making our man happy!
Or would you rather be Indispensable, he cant live without you, cant drink milo when you're not around, where to boil the water, get the milk, cant toast own bread, cant fry own egg, cant wear wrinkled shirts cause you're the one ironing them, out of clean clothes cause you're the one washing them..So that when you're not around he is helpless, i need my wife..or..my wife's too busy for me i need A wife..someone..jeng jeng..